Our professional life and personal life are interlinked and have their overwhelming effects on each other. But life is like that and we are human beings because we have reason and emotions. We cannot defy the fact, so lets accept it, when we are frustrated and depressed in our personal life and relationships, our professional life is affected indirectly. If our professional life is driving us nuts, our personal life can be a living hell as well. Now, how to strike a balance in our emotions? Let us take our workplace problems in this article. Some of us are more vulnerable to our boss and our coworkers mischief.

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The bosss angry statement and a coworkers remark is enough to put a question mark on our self respect and worth in our own eyes. As if whatever they said was capable of showing our real self, and we take it personally and then overreact. Here is the point where our vulnerability brings in anger in us followed by a series of incidents to spoil the atmosphere for you in office. Is this a desirable situation for you? No, never. Giving into the mischief will ruin your peace of mind causing professional as well as personal hazard.

The question is, how to grip the situation and bring it under your control? You will have to start the endeavour by not being vulnerable to your bosss and coworkers negative attitude. Then the other actions will follow.lets go step by step:

Step 1: Identify your coworker/bosss mischief. By understanding this is mischief you will not take it personally any more.

Step 2: Remember, self respect means realizing the fact that in spite of all your imperfections, you are a worthwhile human being.

Step 3: You have been taking coworker/bosss angry remarks personally, and trying to give him reasons to let him understand your point. Trust me, reason has nothing to do with his anger and his statements. Spot yourself taking his statements personally and trying to make him understand your pointsthen stop doing so.

Step 4: You are NOT avoiding or denying the fact. You are just gaining the power of being logical, so that you do not overreact. You are choosing to deal appropriately with mischief.

Step 5: Now, try to deduce what kind of reaction they expect when they do the mischief? Anger, threatening, begging, flattering; that means they expect mischief from us, so that we feel week and ashamed in our own eyes.

Step 6: Our goal is to respond to their mischief with self respect so that they cannot harm us. When the self respect is hurt, we lose peace of mind and our worth.

Step 7: Start responding in an unexpected way. They do not expect us to agree with them. No, you do not have to agree with them, just allow them to feel they way they want.

Say I do not blame you for being angry. I would feel the same if I were you. Let him understand that you are giving him respect in spite of his imperfections.

Step 8: Ask him to talk when he will be cool enough to discuss the matter, and ask him what actions should be taken to change the situation. Talk in a professional way, impersonating the whole issue, and talk to affect him.

Step 9: Agree to them on the fact that if you give them what they want, it would be nice. This will give him some relief from there painful anger while we stand on our ground. But you have not said that you will do whatever he wants.

Step 10: Your behavior would be of a person who is strong enough not be provoked by bosss and coworkers anger mischief. You are standing strong with self respect by answering to their questions, not being hostile but in a morally superior way.

When we are face to face with our anger provoking coworker/boss, our concentration is solely on their mischief and not on us. This way we forget that we are also a person and the mischief provoking man in front of us, is an imperfect human being. By changing focus from them to our own selves, we see how we should keep ourselves away from their provocations and thus keep away from doing the same mischief. This way we make ourselves morally superior to those mischief making coworkers and boss. And this realization of difference between you and them will give you the power to keep your self respect as well as mutual respect and save you from conflicts and depression in your professional life.